After the hectic pace of wedding planning and the actual event itself, it’s no wonder that newly married couples are eager to take time for just the two of them on their honeymoon. Many newlyweds look forward to splurging on a bit of luxury, relaxation and T.L.C., but the budget isn’t always there to pay for V.I.P. treatment. Getting complimentary upgrades and perks on your honeymoon can’t be guaranteed, but hopefully with these tips, brides and grooms can score a few getaway extras.

Find honeymoon-friendly service providers
When honeymoon planning, research to find out what accommodations in your preferred area (and airlines that service those cities) have either a history of treating honeymooners or a dedication to providing high-quality customer service. Use travel review websites, speak to your friends and family or chat with a travel agent.

Show your loyalty
Hotels, airlines and restaurants are keen to encourage repeat customers through the development of loyalty programs and frequent flyer / guest memberships. If you don’t already belong to them, sign up (they’re usually free). The hospitality industry is geared toward pleasing individuals that show an interest in becoming long-term customers, and members of their programs tend to get front-of-the-line service. Always reference your relevant membership numbers when completing your honeymoon bookings.

Bring it up at booking
As you make your reservations, mention that your trip is a honeymoon. Many online booking forms have a field that asks if you have any special requests – this is the place to make one. If there is anything specific you would like for your romantic getaway (i.e.: a certain view from your hotel room, a spa treatment at the resort), say so. Making these requests early is your best bet.

Be charming
When a couple is genuinely happy and enjoying each other’s company, people will ask if they’re celebrating a special occasion. This is a natural opening for you to mention that you’re on your honeymoon. It’s a great opportunity for brides and grooms who aren’t very comfortable asking for free upgrades to bring up the subject.

When you do speak about potential upgrades, be positive but not pushy. Show that you understand the limitations and handle rejection without giving attitude. Often if you’ve been courteous, non-demanding and friendly with hospitality staff, they’ll try to give you the next best thing to an upgrade during your vacation or trip. While it may not be a first-class ticket – some free bubbly, a welcome package or other perks are certainly better than nothing.

Bring proof – or wear it!
It is not uncommon, especially for hotels, to want to ensure that the people asking for honeymoon upgrades really are honeymooners. Bring a copy of your wedding license with you just in case it’s requested.

Some couples have had luck in getting honeymoon perks without having to outright ask by wearing “Bride”, “Groom” or “Newlywed” hats or T-shirts. Observant airline attendants have been known to bring complimentary champagne or wine to honeymooners when they notice they’re onboard. This tip is perfect for people that don’t feel confident in making special requests – you can let your gear do your talking for you.

Ask the right people
Besides letting people know about your newlywed status at the time of booking your trip, the following individuals can also provide some sway on your stay when you mention you’re honeymooning:

• Airport ticket agent:  If a class upgrade isn’t possible, see if you can get better seats (window or roomier emergency aisle) within the same section. However, don’t press the issue – the ticket agent likely has a long line to deal with and not much room to wiggle in.

• Gate agent: The gate agent at the airport has the most influence when it comes to moving passengers from economy to business or first class. When you arrive at your gate, ask the agent if there’s any room on your flight for some seat shuffling. Be kind, understanding, patient and flexible. If you’re lucky, they’ll call you over just before boarding to give you some good news.

• Airline attendant: After everyone had boarded, ask if it’s possible for you and your new husband to enjoy any unoccupied first-class seats. Due to regulations, this isn’t always possible, but if you’ve asked nicely (and handled the rejection well!), you’ll often find that airline attendants can give you a little something extra (like a congratulatory drink!).

• Hotel front desk: When you booked your trip, the hotel or resort should have noted your honeymoon status and hopefully already put an upgrade request in place. In any case, when you arrive, do mention it to front desk. The check-in attendants can see if there are last-minute upgrades that can be arranged. If there are certain things that interest you – such as a beach view, a larger suite, late check-out, a free excursion or a complimentary breakfast – mention this to them. If they know what would specifically make you happy, if it is available – and if you’ve been pleasant – they’re usually all too glad to make it so.

• Waiter / Waitress: A dessert, a bottle of wine or a glass of champagne could be on the house just by mentioning that you’re on your honeymoon. Earnestly thank your waiter or waitress before leaving (or if you’re honeymooning in North America – give a nice tip!).

Be thankful
If you receive special service on your honeymoon, be sure to thank those who give it to you – during and after your trip. Positive, grateful remarks stand out among hospitality staff and you may be surprised how many of those get logged officially. If you’re lucky, you could get the royal treatment on your return visit!

Regardless of the perks and upgrades you may or may not get on your honeymoon, remember to enjoy it. It’s your first vacation as husband and wife and should be treasured.